{"id":16746,"date":"2018-12-19T08:00:37","date_gmt":"2018-12-19T13:00:37","guid":{"rendered":"https:\/\/honeybook.site.strattic.io\/?p=16746"},"modified":"2022-11-24T06:25:44","modified_gmt":"2022-11-24T14:25:44","slug":"the-power-of-pity-parties","status":"publish","type":"post","link":"https:\/\/hbb.dev.reliablepenguin.com\/blog\/the-power-of-pity-parties","title":{"rendered":"The Power of Pity Parties"},"content":{"rendered":"
\"\"<\/a>
Photo by: Matthew Henry<\/figcaption><\/figure>\n

Being an entrepreneur is like signing up to solve calculus equations while you\u2019re strapped onto a rollercoaster that\u2019s powered entirely by emotions. You\u2019ll experience high levels of focus, motivation, and confidence, but at some point, you\u2019ll get derailed from your plans and feel defeated or even hopeless.<\/p>\n

And that\u2019s totally okay\u2014you\u2019re human. It\u2019s okay to fall out of sync with your ideal structure. It\u2019s okay to mess up.<\/p>\n

But what happens when you\u2019re sitting curled up, feeling sorry for yourself? Many on social media would hashtag this #firstworldproblems, but sometimes, business setbacks can feel reeeaaalllly bad. Especially when something you\u2019ve created and poured your heart and soul into doesn\u2019t land the way you want it to\u2014the stakes can sometimes feel incredibly high and a disappointment can really take its toll.<\/p>\n

It\u2019s better to acknowledge these feelings and face them head on rather than pushing them away and berating yourself for showing weakness or sadness. Allowing yourself to acknowledge what sucks at the moment and even finding others who \u201cget it\u201d can allow you to feel seen and empowered, and ultimately move forward as a stronger person.<\/p>\n

And before you tell yourself that what you\u2019re upset about is \u201cstupid\u201d or \u201cunimportant\u201d, realize that there\u2019s a good chance you\u2019re not even upset about the thing you think you\u2019re upset about.<\/p>\n

Fixating on why you\u2019re feeling in the dumps isn\u2019t always necessary. Just allow yourself to release the energy, no matter the cause or rationale. Not everything has to make sense or be figured out. Because the sooner you can release it, the sooner you can get back to what matters.<\/p>\n

Finally, it\u2019s important to always remember we are more than the situations we find ourselves in. Once you\u2019ve taken a moment to vent or cry, make sure to think back to the last time you accomplished a goal or simply felt good about yourself. This can be hard, but trust me, you\u2019re probably doing better than you think.<\/p>\n

The right way to wallow<\/strong><\/h2>\n

Now that you\u2019ve accepted that it\u2019s OK to RSVP to the occasional pity party, how can you ensure you won\u2019t overstay your welcome?<\/p>\n

Deciding ahead of time what you will and won\u2019t allow yourself to do when things get tough can be a helpful exercise. It helps you give yourself some structure and realize that setbacks will happen but don\u2019t need to define you. You can\u2019t control outcomes, but you can control how you react to those outcomes.<\/p>\n

Additionally, just like any plan you create, you may not always meet it. Sometimes you will talk yourself out of having that pity party and other times you may find yourself staring at the bottom of a pint of ice cream crying as you listen to Adele on repeat.<\/p>\n

Hey, it happens.<\/p>\n

But to ensure it doesn\u2019t happen every time your plans fall apart, download my Pity Party Contract<\/a>. Make a promise to yourself to allow the feels to come, but not without a game plan for getting back in, well, the game.<\/p>\n

First, acknowledge that you\u2019re entitled to this pity party and what it is you\u2019re feeling. Is it anger? Is it doubt about your abilities? Is it embarrassment? Is it jealousy? It may be all of these things, or something else, but whatever it may be\u2014own it. Own it all.<\/p>\n

Next, decide how long you\u2019re going to take and what you\u2019ll do with that time. 15 minutes in a hot shower? 30 minutes on the phone with your best friend? An hour to catch up on your favorite TV drama and forget real life for a bit?<\/p>\n

Lastly, have lists handy of people you can call on for help in the event things do escalate to the \u201cworst case scenario.\u201d For example, a list of professionals you can call upon in a work emergency (your website guru, a fellow creative, the head supervisor at the manufacturing company) AND in a personal emergency (a family member, a medical doctor, a therapist).<\/p>\n

Use this worksheet once or twice to get a feel for how you can handle future bumps in the road. Think of it as your emotional fire drill plan.<\/p>\n

So this holiday season, amidst all of the celebrating, don\u2019t be afraid to add a judgment-free pity party to your schedule.<\/p>\n

HoneyBook, the best\u00a0<\/i>crm for solopreneurs<\/i><\/a>, streamlines everything you need\u00a0<\/i>to manage your business into one place. Manage projects, book clients, send an\u00a0<\/i>online invoice<\/i><\/a>\u00a0and get paid through our\u00a0<\/i>online payment software<\/i><\/a>. Now peace of mind comes with just one login.<\/i><\/em><\/p>\n","protected":false},"excerpt":{"rendered":"

Being an entrepreneur is like signing up to solve calculus equations while you\u2019re strapped onto a rollercoaster that\u2019s powered entirely by emotions. You\u2019ll experience high levels of focus, motivation, and confidence, but at some point, you\u2019ll get derailed from your plans and feel defeated or even hopeless. And that\u2019s totally okay\u2014you\u2019re human. It\u2019s okay to […]<\/p>\n","protected":false},"author":425,"featured_media":76889,"comment_status":"open","ping_status":"open","sticky":false,"template":"","format":"standard","meta":{"_acf_changed":false,"footnotes":""},"categories":[36],"tags":[308],"class_list":["post-16746","post","type-post","status-publish","format-standard","has-post-thumbnail","hentry","category-work-life-balance","tag-self-care"],"acf":[],"featured_image_urls_v2":{"full":["https:\/\/hbb.dev.reliablepenguin.com\/blog\/wp-content\/uploads\/2018\/12\/matthew-henry-58760-unsplash.jpeg",2048,1365,false],"thumbnail":["https:\/\/hbb.dev.reliablepenguin.com\/blog\/wp-content\/uploads\/2018\/12\/matthew-henry-58760-unsplash-150x150.jpeg",150,150,true],"medium":["https:\/\/hbb.dev.reliablepenguin.com\/blog\/wp-content\/uploads\/2018\/12\/matthew-henry-58760-unsplash-300x200.jpeg",300,200,true],"medium_large":["https:\/\/hbb.dev.reliablepenguin.com\/blog\/wp-content\/uploads\/2018\/12\/matthew-henry-58760-unsplash-768x512.jpeg",768,512,true],"large":["https:\/\/hbb.dev.reliablepenguin.com\/blog\/wp-content\/uploads\/2018\/12\/matthew-henry-58760-unsplash-1024x683.jpeg",1024,683,true],"1536x1536":["https:\/\/hbb.dev.reliablepenguin.com\/blog\/wp-content\/uploads\/2018\/12\/matthew-henry-58760-unsplash-1536x1024.jpeg",1536,1024,true],"2048x2048":["https:\/\/hbb.dev.reliablepenguin.com\/blog\/wp-content\/uploads\/2018\/12\/matthew-henry-58760-unsplash.jpeg",2048,1365,false]},"post_excerpt_stackable_v2":"

Photo by: Matthew Henry Being an entrepreneur is like signing up to solve calculus equations while you\u2019re strapped onto a rollercoaster that\u2019s powered entirely by emotions. You\u2019ll experience high levels of focus, motivation, and confidence, but at some point, you\u2019ll get derailed from your plans and feel defeated or even hopeless. And that\u2019s totally okay\u2014you\u2019re human. It\u2019s okay to fall out of sync with your ideal structure. It\u2019s okay to mess up. But what happens when you\u2019re sitting curled up, feeling sorry for yourself? Many on social media would hashtag this #firstworldproblems, but sometimes, business setbacks can feel reeeaaalllly bad.…<\/p>\n","category_list_v2":"Work-life balance<\/a>","author_info_v2":{"name":"Suzanne Paulinski","url":"https:\/\/hbb.dev.reliablepenguin.com\/blog\/author\/suzanne-paulinski"},"comments_num_v2":"0 comments","yoast_head":"\nPity Parties and Why They Are Important | HoneyBook<\/title>\n<meta name=\"description\" content=\"It can be tough when things go wrong in your business. Sometimes the best thing you can do to bounce back is to embrace pity parties and let it all out.\" \/>\n<meta name=\"robots\" content=\"index, follow, max-snippet:-1, max-image-preview:large, max-video-preview:-1\" \/>\n<link rel=\"canonical\" href=\"https:\/\/hbbadmin.dev.reliablepenguin.com\/blog\/the-power-of-pity-parties\" \/>\n<meta property=\"og:locale\" content=\"en_US\" \/>\n<meta property=\"og:type\" content=\"article\" \/>\n<meta property=\"og:title\" content=\"Pity Parties and Why They Are Important | HoneyBook\" \/>\n<meta property=\"og:description\" content=\"It can be tough when things go wrong in your business. Sometimes the best thing you can do to bounce back is to embrace pity parties and let it all out.\" \/>\n<meta property=\"og:url\" content=\"https:\/\/hbbadmin.dev.reliablepenguin.com\/blog\/the-power-of-pity-parties\" \/>\n<meta property=\"og:site_name\" content=\"HoneyBook\" \/>\n<meta property=\"article:publisher\" content=\"https:\/\/www.facebook.com\/honeybook.co\" \/>\n<meta property=\"article:published_time\" content=\"2018-12-19T13:00:37+00:00\" \/>\n<meta property=\"article:modified_time\" content=\"2022-11-24T14:25:44+00:00\" \/>\n<meta property=\"og:image\" content=\"https:\/\/hbbadmin.dev.reliablepenguin.com\/blog\/wp-content\/uploads\/2018\/12\/matthew-henry-58760-unsplash.jpeg\" \/>\n\t<meta property=\"og:image:width\" content=\"2048\" \/>\n\t<meta property=\"og:image:height\" content=\"1365\" \/>\n\t<meta property=\"og:image:type\" content=\"image\/jpeg\" \/>\n<meta name=\"author\" content=\"Suzanne Paulinski\" \/>\n<meta name=\"twitter:card\" content=\"summary_large_image\" \/>\n<meta name=\"twitter:creator\" content=\"@honeybook\" \/>\n<meta name=\"twitter:site\" content=\"@honeybook\" \/>\n<meta name=\"twitter:label1\" content=\"Written by\" \/>\n\t<meta name=\"twitter:data1\" content=\"Suzanne Paulinski\" \/>\n\t<meta name=\"twitter:label2\" content=\"Est. reading time\" \/>\n\t<meta name=\"twitter:data2\" content=\"4 minutes\" \/>\n<script type=\"application\/ld+json\" class=\"yoast-schema-graph\">{\"@context\":\"https:\/\/schema.org\",\"@graph\":[{\"@type\":\"WebPage\",\"@id\":\"https:\/\/hbbadmin.dev.reliablepenguin.com\/blog\/the-power-of-pity-parties\",\"url\":\"https:\/\/hbbadmin.dev.reliablepenguin.com\/blog\/the-power-of-pity-parties\",\"name\":\"Pity Parties and Why They Are Important | HoneyBook\",\"isPartOf\":{\"@id\":\"https:\/\/hbbadmin.dev.reliablepenguin.com\/blog\/#website\"},\"primaryImageOfPage\":{\"@id\":\"https:\/\/hbbadmin.dev.reliablepenguin.com\/blog\/the-power-of-pity-parties#primaryimage\"},\"image\":{\"@id\":\"https:\/\/hbbadmin.dev.reliablepenguin.com\/blog\/the-power-of-pity-parties#primaryimage\"},\"thumbnailUrl\":\"https:\/\/hbb.dev.reliablepenguin.com\/blog\/wp-content\/uploads\/2018\/12\/matthew-henry-58760-unsplash.jpeg\",\"datePublished\":\"2018-12-19T13:00:37+00:00\",\"dateModified\":\"2022-11-24T14:25:44+00:00\",\"author\":{\"@id\":\"https:\/\/hbbadmin.dev.reliablepenguin.com\/blog\/#\/schema\/person\/362bfd6baac5e7dc798857c9afe4e42d\"},\"description\":\"It can be tough when things go wrong in your business. Sometimes the best thing you can do to bounce back is to embrace pity parties and let it all out.\",\"breadcrumb\":{\"@id\":\"https:\/\/hbbadmin.dev.reliablepenguin.com\/blog\/the-power-of-pity-parties#breadcrumb\"},\"inLanguage\":\"en-US\",\"potentialAction\":[{\"@type\":\"ReadAction\",\"target\":[\"https:\/\/hbbadmin.dev.reliablepenguin.com\/blog\/the-power-of-pity-parties\"]}]},{\"@type\":\"ImageObject\",\"inLanguage\":\"en-US\",\"@id\":\"https:\/\/hbbadmin.dev.reliablepenguin.com\/blog\/the-power-of-pity-parties#primaryimage\",\"url\":\"https:\/\/hbb.dev.reliablepenguin.com\/blog\/wp-content\/uploads\/2018\/12\/matthew-henry-58760-unsplash.jpeg\",\"contentUrl\":\"https:\/\/hbb.dev.reliablepenguin.com\/blog\/wp-content\/uploads\/2018\/12\/matthew-henry-58760-unsplash.jpeg\",\"width\":2048,\"height\":1365,\"caption\":\"pug dog looking sad\"},{\"@type\":\"BreadcrumbList\",\"@id\":\"https:\/\/hbbadmin.dev.reliablepenguin.com\/blog\/the-power-of-pity-parties#breadcrumb\",\"itemListElement\":[{\"@type\":\"ListItem\",\"position\":1,\"name\":\"Home\",\"item\":\"https:\/\/hbb.reliablepenguin.com\/blog\/\"},{\"@type\":\"ListItem\",\"position\":2,\"name\":\"The Power of Pity Parties\"}]},{\"@type\":\"WebSite\",\"@id\":\"https:\/\/hbbadmin.dev.reliablepenguin.com\/blog\/#website\",\"url\":\"https:\/\/hbbadmin.dev.reliablepenguin.com\/blog\/\",\"name\":\"HoneyBook\",\"description\":\"Resources to empower independent business owners\",\"potentialAction\":[{\"@type\":\"SearchAction\",\"target\":{\"@type\":\"EntryPoint\",\"urlTemplate\":\"https:\/\/hbbadmin.dev.reliablepenguin.com\/blog\/?s={search_term_string}\"},\"query-input\":{\"@type\":\"PropertyValueSpecification\",\"valueRequired\":true,\"valueName\":\"search_term_string\"}}],\"inLanguage\":\"en-US\"},{\"@type\":\"Person\",\"@id\":\"https:\/\/hbbadmin.dev.reliablepenguin.com\/blog\/#\/schema\/person\/362bfd6baac5e7dc798857c9afe4e42d\",\"name\":\"Suzanne Paulinski\",\"image\":{\"@type\":\"ImageObject\",\"inLanguage\":\"en-US\",\"@id\":\"https:\/\/hbbadmin.dev.reliablepenguin.com\/blog\/#\/schema\/person\/image\/\",\"url\":\"https:\/\/secure.gravatar.com\/avatar\/e614a9853b5ede32307a0651b35680473ab502d80db1ff4738271e40883cd5c7?s=96&d=mm&r=g\",\"contentUrl\":\"https:\/\/secure.gravatar.com\/avatar\/e614a9853b5ede32307a0651b35680473ab502d80db1ff4738271e40883cd5c7?s=96&d=mm&r=g\",\"caption\":\"Suzanne Paulinski\"},\"description\":\"Suzanne is a mindset coach and founder of The Rock\/Star Advocate, helping music professionals reach their goals with custom goal-setting and time management solutions that enable them to gain clarity on their next steps while maintaining a healthy work\/life balance. She published her first book, The Rock\/Star Life Planner, now in its 2019 edition, as a tool for creatives to find focus in their daily lives (www.therockstaradvocate.com\/planner) and her teachings can also be found in her many guest posts for Huffington Post, Sonicbids, ReverbNation, CD Baby, Tunecore, and Soundfly.\",\"sameAs\":[\"https:\/\/therockstaradvocate.com\",\"https:\/\/instagram.com\/rockstaradvo\"],\"url\":\"https:\/\/hbb.dev.reliablepenguin.com\/blog\/author\/suzanne-paulinski\"}]}<\/script>\n<!-- \/ Yoast SEO plugin. -->","yoast_head_json":{"title":"Pity Parties and Why They Are Important | HoneyBook","description":"It can be tough when things go wrong in your business. Sometimes the best thing you can do to bounce back is to embrace pity parties and let it all out.","robots":{"index":"index","follow":"follow","max-snippet":"max-snippet:-1","max-image-preview":"max-image-preview:large","max-video-preview":"max-video-preview:-1"},"canonical":"https:\/\/hbbadmin.dev.reliablepenguin.com\/blog\/the-power-of-pity-parties","og_locale":"en_US","og_type":"article","og_title":"Pity Parties and Why They Are Important | HoneyBook","og_description":"It can be tough when things go wrong in your business. Sometimes the best thing you can do to bounce back is to embrace pity parties and let it all out.","og_url":"https:\/\/hbbadmin.dev.reliablepenguin.com\/blog\/the-power-of-pity-parties","og_site_name":"HoneyBook","article_publisher":"https:\/\/www.facebook.com\/honeybook.co","article_published_time":"2018-12-19T13:00:37+00:00","article_modified_time":"2022-11-24T14:25:44+00:00","og_image":[{"width":2048,"height":1365,"url":"https:\/\/hbbadmin.dev.reliablepenguin.com\/blog\/wp-content\/uploads\/2018\/12\/matthew-henry-58760-unsplash.jpeg","type":"image\/jpeg"}],"author":"Suzanne Paulinski","twitter_card":"summary_large_image","twitter_creator":"@honeybook","twitter_site":"@honeybook","twitter_misc":{"Written by":"Suzanne Paulinski","Est. reading time":"4 minutes"},"schema":{"@context":"https:\/\/schema.org","@graph":[{"@type":"WebPage","@id":"https:\/\/hbbadmin.dev.reliablepenguin.com\/blog\/the-power-of-pity-parties","url":"https:\/\/hbbadmin.dev.reliablepenguin.com\/blog\/the-power-of-pity-parties","name":"Pity Parties and Why They Are Important | HoneyBook","isPartOf":{"@id":"https:\/\/hbbadmin.dev.reliablepenguin.com\/blog\/#website"},"primaryImageOfPage":{"@id":"https:\/\/hbbadmin.dev.reliablepenguin.com\/blog\/the-power-of-pity-parties#primaryimage"},"image":{"@id":"https:\/\/hbbadmin.dev.reliablepenguin.com\/blog\/the-power-of-pity-parties#primaryimage"},"thumbnailUrl":"https:\/\/hbb.dev.reliablepenguin.com\/blog\/wp-content\/uploads\/2018\/12\/matthew-henry-58760-unsplash.jpeg","datePublished":"2018-12-19T13:00:37+00:00","dateModified":"2022-11-24T14:25:44+00:00","author":{"@id":"https:\/\/hbbadmin.dev.reliablepenguin.com\/blog\/#\/schema\/person\/362bfd6baac5e7dc798857c9afe4e42d"},"description":"It can be tough when things go wrong in your business. Sometimes the best thing you can do to bounce back is to embrace pity parties and let it all out.","breadcrumb":{"@id":"https:\/\/hbbadmin.dev.reliablepenguin.com\/blog\/the-power-of-pity-parties#breadcrumb"},"inLanguage":"en-US","potentialAction":[{"@type":"ReadAction","target":["https:\/\/hbbadmin.dev.reliablepenguin.com\/blog\/the-power-of-pity-parties"]}]},{"@type":"ImageObject","inLanguage":"en-US","@id":"https:\/\/hbbadmin.dev.reliablepenguin.com\/blog\/the-power-of-pity-parties#primaryimage","url":"https:\/\/hbb.dev.reliablepenguin.com\/blog\/wp-content\/uploads\/2018\/12\/matthew-henry-58760-unsplash.jpeg","contentUrl":"https:\/\/hbb.dev.reliablepenguin.com\/blog\/wp-content\/uploads\/2018\/12\/matthew-henry-58760-unsplash.jpeg","width":2048,"height":1365,"caption":"pug dog looking sad"},{"@type":"BreadcrumbList","@id":"https:\/\/hbbadmin.dev.reliablepenguin.com\/blog\/the-power-of-pity-parties#breadcrumb","itemListElement":[{"@type":"ListItem","position":1,"name":"Home","item":"https:\/\/hbb.reliablepenguin.com\/blog\/"},{"@type":"ListItem","position":2,"name":"The Power of Pity Parties"}]},{"@type":"WebSite","@id":"https:\/\/hbbadmin.dev.reliablepenguin.com\/blog\/#website","url":"https:\/\/hbbadmin.dev.reliablepenguin.com\/blog\/","name":"HoneyBook","description":"Resources to empower independent business owners","potentialAction":[{"@type":"SearchAction","target":{"@type":"EntryPoint","urlTemplate":"https:\/\/hbbadmin.dev.reliablepenguin.com\/blog\/?s={search_term_string}"},"query-input":{"@type":"PropertyValueSpecification","valueRequired":true,"valueName":"search_term_string"}}],"inLanguage":"en-US"},{"@type":"Person","@id":"https:\/\/hbbadmin.dev.reliablepenguin.com\/blog\/#\/schema\/person\/362bfd6baac5e7dc798857c9afe4e42d","name":"Suzanne Paulinski","image":{"@type":"ImageObject","inLanguage":"en-US","@id":"https:\/\/hbbadmin.dev.reliablepenguin.com\/blog\/#\/schema\/person\/image\/","url":"https:\/\/secure.gravatar.com\/avatar\/e614a9853b5ede32307a0651b35680473ab502d80db1ff4738271e40883cd5c7?s=96&d=mm&r=g","contentUrl":"https:\/\/secure.gravatar.com\/avatar\/e614a9853b5ede32307a0651b35680473ab502d80db1ff4738271e40883cd5c7?s=96&d=mm&r=g","caption":"Suzanne Paulinski"},"description":"Suzanne is a mindset coach and founder of The Rock\/Star Advocate, helping music professionals reach their goals with custom goal-setting and time management solutions that enable them to gain clarity on their next steps while maintaining a healthy work\/life balance. She published her first book, The Rock\/Star Life Planner, now in its 2019 edition, as a tool for creatives to find focus in their daily lives (www.therockstaradvocate.com\/planner) and her teachings can also be found in her many guest posts for Huffington Post, Sonicbids, ReverbNation, CD Baby, Tunecore, and Soundfly.","sameAs":["https:\/\/therockstaradvocate.com","https:\/\/instagram.com\/rockstaradvo"],"url":"https:\/\/hbb.dev.reliablepenguin.com\/blog\/author\/suzanne-paulinski"}]}},"_links":{"self":[{"href":"https:\/\/hbb.dev.reliablepenguin.com\/blog\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/posts\/16746","targetHints":{"allow":["GET"]}}],"collection":[{"href":"https:\/\/hbb.dev.reliablepenguin.com\/blog\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/posts"}],"about":[{"href":"https:\/\/hbb.dev.reliablepenguin.com\/blog\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/types\/post"}],"author":[{"embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/hbb.dev.reliablepenguin.com\/blog\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/users\/425"}],"replies":[{"embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/hbb.dev.reliablepenguin.com\/blog\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/comments?post=16746"}],"version-history":[{"count":0,"href":"https:\/\/hbb.dev.reliablepenguin.com\/blog\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/posts\/16746\/revisions"}],"wp:featuredmedia":[{"embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/hbb.dev.reliablepenguin.com\/blog\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/media\/76889"}],"wp:attachment":[{"href":"https:\/\/hbb.dev.reliablepenguin.com\/blog\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/media?parent=16746"}],"wp:term":[{"taxonomy":"category","embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/hbb.dev.reliablepenguin.com\/blog\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/categories?post=16746"},{"taxonomy":"post_tag","embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/hbb.dev.reliablepenguin.com\/blog\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/tags?post=16746"}],"curies":[{"name":"wp","href":"https:\/\/api.w.org\/{rel}","templated":true}]}}